It Almost Fell Apart

Every relationship is tested. Platonic, familial, or romantic, it makes no difference. Every relationship will enter a period of trial and tribulation. On the other side of this battle, are several outcomes. The relationship will be stronger because it was forged in fire, it will crumble like clay, or it will escape with visible cracks that will never be fully repaired.

As you enter these periods of strain, you must know certain things about yourself. Is this relationship worth saving? Do I think we will be better because of this challenge? Is the pain worth it? Who do I want to be when this over? How will this make me a better friend, family member, or partner?

The answers to these questions come in phases. Some are known at the beginning. Others reveal themselves slowly. A few will only be known when hindsight becomes 20/20. But some things remain true no matter what is learned. Not all relationships are worth saving. Some friendships have expiration dates. Never give up on family. Give the best version of yourself to your partner. If that still isn’t enough, then the outcome is out of your hands.

I write these words as a friend, a member of a dynamic family, and a partner. Many of my friendships have been tested. Some were built to last. Others saw the light flicker away. Family relationships have been tested beyond belief due to tragedy, selfishness…